Insecurity?

Have been experiencing this since school times, albeit in different proportions. Was the most in school, a little less in college and lesser in the MBA, nevertheless it still exists.

Am sure most of u must have heard your friends telling you "Kitna padhega yaar, bas kar"
Is that out of genuine concern or is it the insecurity? In most cases, its the insecurity, the person asking you this statement is worried more about himself/herself than about the person he/she is asking the question to.

The situation becomes more evident in the opposite case. You wont find many people asking you "Kitna cigarette fookega, bas kar". Only people who are genuinely concerned will tell you this.

Time to change...so now if you see a person smoking tell him/her, "Kitna cigarette fookega, bas kar" and if u see a person studying, you say, "Arre tu padh raha hai, padh padh. Main bhi join karta hoon".

In MBA lingo, channelize your tension in an efficient manner to do value-adding work rather than bring the other person down and hamper overall growth!!